Selena Gomez Was “Super In Love” With Justin Bieber, Now “Scared” Of Tinder

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Selena Gomez Flare Interview October November 2015

By Shari Weiss |

Selena Gomez Flare Interview October November 2015


Selena Gomez is admitting she was “super in love” with Justin Bieber, but now that she’s single, she has no interest in using a dating app like Tinder. See video below.

Gomez makes the comments in her new Flare cover story for the magazine’s November issue. The allusion to Bieber comes when the singer-actress discusses the feelings that went into her upcoming album, Revival. “My strength is translating emotion, because I’m such a feeler,” she says. “I’ve felt so much in the past two years, from being super in love and then dealing with things to getting older and all these beautiful experiences that were complicated and exciting. That’s what I wanted the record to feel like.”

Gomez candidly opens up about the changes she’s experienced over the last few years, noting, “This has been a transitional season for me, personally and in my career. I had multiple revelations and big accomplishments in my life.” The former child star is hoping this next phase will change the narrative around her, which she says has sometimes been “frustrating” and has even amounted to “defamation of character.” She tells the magazine, “I’m young: I’ve lived my life in the public eye, and I’ve had to figure out how to do that. Ultimately, I am 23 and figuring out my life. I feel confident, I feel empowered, I feel in control.”

“I was very disappointed when I would see tabloid coverage of me because my intentions have never been to let down fans,” Gomez further tells the magazine. “I’ve respected everybody I’ve encountered in my entire life. So now that I do have this influence, I don’t want to just be a name. I don’t want to just be somebody you follow on Instagram who can, like, post decent pictures that they have put literally 500 filters on. I want people to really be inspired, to believe they can do whatever they want.”

Gomez calls her Instagram posts “very intentional,” though she knows they can be a double-edged sword. “I don’t want [critics and haters] to win. It’s not fair for them to try to control my life. Yeah, I’m insecure sometimes, but so is everybody. Yeah, I made mistakes, but so does everybody. I get a little upset — not upset, but just passionate — about that. I want to be heard, and I don’t want people to see those comments and think they can bring people down, because it’s not right.”

In fact, asked what “advice” she would give to young girls about social media, she replies “It’s not real.” Gomez argues, “None of it is real, not even the comments. It’s especially hard for women and girls, who think they have to look like those pictures; that breaks my heart. I know I post pictures when I feel good or look good in an outfit, but in reality, I’m not going to be posing like that as I’m walking down the street, and you can Google horrible pictures of me. You can find them everywhere. I don’t care. Social media is a place to have fun and put your perspective online.”

Given that her career dates back to “Barney” and the Disney Channel, Gomez argues that her fans are “growing up with me.” She explains, “Obviously, there are moments when people see me do something different and they’re just not used to it but, ultimately, I’m not 16 anymore. I’m a young woman, and I’m growing up and trying to do it in a way I feel comfortable with.”

Gomez says that’s evident in her music video for “Good For You,” which, while sexy, was definitely not raunchy. “I have my own definition of what I think is beautiful and sexy. That’s why, in the video, I didn’t wear lingerie and I didn’t have a guy in it,” says the dark-haired beauty. “It’s a woman in one of those raw, bare moments; she’s vulnerable, and that’s sexy.”

She continues, “I’m inspired by women who are able to be themselves — like, all of themselves. I feel like that’s the place I’m in. I’m not going to sit down and promote something I don’t care about or talk about something I don’t mean.” Among those inspiring women is best friend Taylor Swift. “A bunch of women I look up to and admire are supporting one another, and Taylor has such a beautiful way of bringing people together,” says Gomez. “That was good for me, because the more I started working, the more uncomfortable I was. I wouldn’t trust people, and Taylor has a way of stripping down everything and just getting down to being human. I love that.”

Gomez, however, admits she doesn’t “trust as much as I would like to,” and says, “I just don’t give myself to anyone.” But while that’s a work-in-progress, dating is not a priority, nevermind using an app to find love. “I would never go on Tinder! I think it would scare me,” she confesses. Gomez goes on to reveal, though, “I go on dates. It’s not that difficult — I’m a nice young lady [laughs] — but that’s not my focus. I’m really stoked about being with myself right now.”

Check out behind-the-scenes video from Gomez’s Flare shoot below. What do you think of the interview? NOTE: The video is no longer available.


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