Jennifer Garner Breaks Silence On Ben Affleck Divorce And Nanny Scandal

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Jennifer Garner Breaks Silence Vanity Fair

By Shari Weiss |

(Vanity Fair)

Jennifer Garner breaks her silence on her divorce from Ben Affleck in a Vanity Fair cover story for the March 2016 issue. In the feature, the actress opens up about rumors of Affleck’s infidelity and why he’s “the love of my life,” even though they’re not getting back together. Gossip Cop has highlighted some of the quotes from the interview below.

Garner On Her Union With Affleck
“It was a real marriage. It wasn’t for the cameras. And it was a huge priority for me to stay in it. And that did not work.”

Garner On Reaching A Point Where She Could No Longer Work For Her Marriage
“That’s a really hard question. I’m a pretty hard worker. It’s one of the pains in my life that something I believe in so strongly I’ve completely failed at twice. You have to have two people to dance a marriage. My heart’s a little on the tender side right now, and it’s always easier to focus on the ways that you feel hurt, but I know that, with time and some perspective, I’ll have a clearer sense of where I let the system down, because there’s no way I get off in this.”

Garner On So-Called “Nannygate”
“Let me just tell you something. We had been separated for months before I ever heard about the nanny. She had nothing to do with our decision to divorce. She was not a part of the equation. Bad judgment? Yes. It’s not great for your kids for [a nanny] to disappear from their lives. I have had to have conversations about the meaning of ‘scandal.'”

Garner’s Mixed Feelings On Affleck
“I didn’t marry the big fat movie star; I married him. And I would go back and remake that decision. I ran down the beach to him, and I would again. You can’t have these three babies and so much of what we had. He’s the love of my life. What am I going to do about that? He’s the most brilliant person in any room, the most charismatic, the most generous. He’s just a complicated guy. I always say, ‘When his sun shines on you, you feel it.’ But when the sun is shining elsewhere, it’s cold. He can cast quite a shadow.”

Garner On Tuning Out The Media Attention And Choosing Not To “Give A Sh*t” About How They Look To The Public
“I turned on CNN one day, and there we were. I just won’t do it anymore. I took a silent oath with myself last summer to really stay offline. I am totally clueless about all of it.”

“Ben says, ‘Oh, you just don’t care,’ and I say, ‘No, it’s the opposite.’ It hurts me so much, and I care so much. I cannot be driven by the optics of this. I cannot let anger or hurt be my engine. I need to move with the big picture always on my mind, and the kids first and foremost.”

Garner On Ricky Gervais’ Joke That “The Only Person Ben Affleck Hasn’t Been Unfaithful To” Is Matt Damon
“I laughed. People have pain — they do regrettable things, they feel shame, and shame equals pain. No one needs to hate him for me. I don’t hate him. Certainly we don’t have to beat the guy up. Don’t worry — my eyes were wide open during the marriage. I’m taking good care of myself.”

Garner On Picking Up The Pieces
“Of course this is not what I imagined when I ran down the beach, but it is where I am. We still have to help each other get through this. He’s still the only person who really knows the truth about things. And I’m still the only person that knows some of his truths.”

Garner On Affleck Leaving The Family To Film Live By Night
“I wasn’t part of it. It was starting and it was a hard day for me. I got the kids to school, and I went home and went to bed. I haven’t had a lot of those days.”

Garner On Understanding People Want To See Them Reunite
“When Jen Aniston and Brad Pitt broke up, I was dying to see something that said they were getting back together.”

Garner On Moving On
“When the earth shakes, you go to what you know from childhood. All of a sudden I’m sitting down at the piano. I went back to church. I sat down and wrote bad poetry all day because I was so sad. I needed a dance class; it reminded me of my fight scenes [in ‘Alias’] and how I missed that. I feel the need to be physical and I feel the need to punch someone. You know what I look forward to? I look forward to getting past the pity stage. I look forward to just having a sense of humor.”

“I definitely put a lot of time towards my marriage that I will now have for myself. I don’t know how I will use that.”

Garner On Dating
“I guess. I don’t know. It’s just that [from] everyone that I know that is dating it just seems, well… Men don’t call anymore… I want flowers; I don’t want to text. What does that make me? What kind of dinosaur am I?”

Garner On Being Hit On
“We were waiting for the bathroom at JetBlue, and I was so floored. I had to remind myself that that was something that could happen. He said, ‘Could I take you for a cup of coffee?’ And I was like, ‘No! You may not take me for a cup of coffee, sir.’ And then I said, ‘But thanks for asking.’”

Garner On Co-Parenting
“It’s not Ben’s job to make me happy. The main thing is these kids — and we’re completely in line with what we hope for them. Sure, I lost the dream of dancing with my husband at my daughter’s wedding. But you should see their faces when he walks through the door. And if you see your kids love someone so purely and wholly, then you’re going to be friends with that person.”

Garner On Affleck’s Back Tattoo
“You know what we would say in my hometown about that? ‘Bless his heart.’ A phoenix rising from the ashes. Am I the ashes in this scenario?” Garner says, reportedly winking. “I take umbrage. I refuse to be the ashes.”

Victor Garber On Officiating Garner And Affleck’s Wedding
“That experience was one of the greatest we’ve ever had. As difficult as this time is, as sad as this time is, I think there is a great love between them, and that will always be there.”


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