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How Gwyneth Paltrow And Chris Martin Reinvented Divorce

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A photo of Gwyneth Paltrow in a black dress next to a photo of Chris Martin in a green t-shirt

By Brianna Morton |

A photo of Gwyneth Paltrow in a black dress next to a photo of Chris Martin in a green t-shirt

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Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin revolutionized the divorce process back in 2014 when the famous couple announced their decision to “consciously uncouple.” Or, in other words, divorce. 5 years later, both Martin and Paltrow have found new loves and moved on, but they haven’t left each other in the past.

The decision to divorce was a difficult one for the Iron Man actress and Coldplay frontman. For about a year, the couple tried various ways to keep their relationship going, including therapy, but nothing worked. In the end, they decided what they wanted was a way to change the nature of their relationship without ending it or walking away as enemies. “I just thought, ‘I wonder if there’s a way to circumvent that and just go directly to the point where we’re friends.’ We’re family, that’s it,” Paltrow told Dax Shepherd on his podcast Armchair Expert. “We can pretend we’re not, and hate each other … or, let’s try to reinvent this for ourselves.”

Despite Paltrow and Martin’s efforts to keep this notoriously difficult process as positive as possible. They still faced backlash about their turn of phrase, “consciously uncouple.” The overwhelmingly negative reaction made a painful situation even worse. “I was in a lot of pain. It was so difficult. It felt like such a failure to me. It was so hard and I was so worried about my kids,” Paltrow explained. “Then there was this whole other layer of the world turning on us.”

She can’t say exactly why people turned on them for using a phrase she once described as a “beautiful concept,” but she has a theory. “Sometimes I’ve said things and it’s been too early in the culture, or whatever,” she said, musing that the phrase possibly “triggered a lot of people who were the sons and daughters of acrimonious divorces, or people in the middle of acrimonious divorces.”

The couple, married for ten years, include each other in their lives in a way that most divorced couples don’t. After Paltrow married Brad Falchuck, the co-creator of Glee, she even invited Martin along to her honeymoon. “We just took our honeymoon in the Maldives and we had a big family honeymoon over Christmas,” said the Goop owner. The trip included her two children with Martin and Falchuck’s two children from his previous marriage

Though the former couple’s lives are very much intertwined, some tabloids overstate their involvement in each other’s personal affairs. For instance, earlier this year, Gossip Cop busted a story in Star for claiming that Martin asked Paltrow permission to marry his girlfriend Dakota Johnson. The publication also recently claimed that Johnson’s friends were urging her to dump Martin over his close relationship with Paltrow. That, too, was debunked by Gossip Cop. Maybe some people aren’t used to divorces being quite this friendly, which is why they feel the need to make up drama.


Sources

"Gwyneth Paltrow." Armchair Expert, 18 Mar. 2019.

Shuster, Andrew. "Chris Martin Asked Gwyneth Paltrow For Permission To Marry Dakota Johnson?" Gossip Cop, 18 Jan. 2019.

Shuster, Andrew. "Dakota Johnson’s Friends Urging Her To Dump Chris Martin Because He’s Too Close With Gwyneth Paltrow?" 19 Dec. 2019.