Taylor Swift: I Wish People Would Stop Trying To Set Me Up On Dates!
Taylor Swift opens up about dating, independence, and feminism in the December issue of Cosmopolitan UK. The magazine calls the superstar its new “cover goddess,” and she dazzles in a winter wonderland-inspired photo shoot.
In the accompanying interview, Swift candidly speaks about her love life… or rather, her lack of one. “People will say, let me set you up with someone, and I’m just sitting there saying, ‘That’s not what I’m doing. I’m not lonely; I’m not looking,'” she tells the magazine, adding, “They just don’t get it.”
Swift explains, “It’d take someone really special for me to undergo the circumstances I have to go through to experience a date. I don’t know how I would ever have another person in my world trying to have a relationship with me, or a family. The best answer I can come up with now is ‘go at it alone.’ Life can be romantic without having a romance. I’m very attracted to how happy I am now.”
“I’ve learned that just because someone is cute and wants to date you, that’s not a reason to sacrifice your independence and allow everyone to say whatever they want about you. I’m not doing that anymore,” says the singer. It’s that viewpoint that helped inspire her new album 1989. Swift shares, “I wrote my last album about the deep, sad, intense heartbreak I went through. This album is about after that, when you’ve figured it out. You like being alone and not because you’re hurt, not because you’re sad, but because it’s free.”
Swift also credits Lena Dunham’s positive influence on her life. She says of her pal, “Her perspective has truly shaped me in the past couple of years. She is just so enthusiastic about life, about other women. She is like a hug in the form of a person.”
The songstress says she and her girlfriends “talk a lot about feminism and the inequality between the way men and women are talked about.” Swift continues, “The kind of things we say are: ‘Why is it mischievous, fun and sexy if a guy has a string of lovers that he’s cast aside, loved and left? Yet if a woman dates three or four people in an eight-year period she is a serial dater and it gives some 12-year-old the idea to call her a slut on the internet?’ It’s not the same for boys, it just isn’t and that’s a fact.”
The full interview will hit newsstands on November 4. What do you think of Swift’s comments?