By taking Chris back, you were telling him it was okay to be the victim.

That is a chance she will have to take. Love is worth risking everything for. I mean everything. And if you’ve never felt it, you will understand why I girl who has everything will risk it to be with him, when a lot of guys would give their arm to be with her.

How old are you dear?!
Cos this is exact reply of a 17 yer old who living in a fantasy and a Hollywood movies!
Life is about something else.
You better start to learn about men and the way they thinks before you make such a judgment!

People who make comments on situations they have no real knowledge of is laughable. This is her life, her choice and ultimately her decision. Many women who are not in Hollywood’s spotlight go back. Some men change and some don’t but whichever it is, it is her business. Outside of what the media reports no one knows. The incident is of public record and I heavily suggest people read it. The only people who really know what happened is Rihanna, Chris, what was told to the courts by the involved parties and God if one believes there is one. What the public has it what the media said happened.

Stop being so judgmental and leave those people alone. They have a right to a normal, violent free relationship. They are both older and more mature. Wish them well and move on and if it doesn’t work out, that’s on them.

Love is NOT worth your life and your respect.

He did not take her life, or her respect. He acted like a stupid hot head teenager. He was nineteen. I am glad she knows the difference. Its not to say you should forgive this if it happens to you. You handle it the way you see fit. And at the end of the day, you have you and you alone to face. Rhianna did that and it seems for her, at the end of the day, she wants to give their relationship a second chance. That is her decision. And yes, life without love is like food without salt, movie without sound or sub tittle, Summer without a sunny day, going on a virtual vacation, going to Paris but never leaving your hotel room, having a meal when you’ve lost your taste buds………I mean you’ll live just fine but it will be just blah. Someone said this in a song, but it is so true to the core “the greatest thing you will ever learn is to love and be loved in return”. She feels this with Chris, This is her life. End of story.

You are no different from a physical abuser. You are even worse. You are a verbal abuser. Calling her a whore? The bruises will fade away, but your words will never. There is no cure for the damage hurtful words can cause.

it’s going back to a guy that beat you considered being a victim?

I get people don’t agree with her decision but how is calling her out her name different from what CB did. Keep in mind that violence whether it physical or mental scars are still wrong. It doesn’t matter if she will see it or not it still says a lot about you. We might not agree with her decision but it is hers and I don’t think you or I have the right to beat her down or call her out her name because of it. I don’t remember her ever asking for our opinion or sympathy when it happened or now. I think if the media would leave it alone she would never discuss it. She isn’t a victim, a victim is someone who lets a situation cripple them and lives in that moment and lets that situation control their life. A victim is someone who judges people by what that person did and holds onto the fear that if it happened once it will happen again so they just give up or they let the anger of what the anger consume them. When you can get past that and live your life you are not a victim. The gun could have just been a metaphor. She isn’t a victim because despite what people think she should do she is doing what she wants to do . She is telling you,me and everyone else that she is more than her circumstance.

The post were not to you but to Martina..sorry!

Forgiving is one thing, going back to the man that did what he did to her is another. A woman should NEVER go back to a man that beat her, even once. End of story.

Please ..lets let Rihanna make her own choices….she loves this guy….. she’s made her decision, to give him a second chance…The haters made fun of Robert Pattinson also…let these people make the decisions that make them happy…I doubt this Chris Brown dude is stupid enough to blow it again…

You can teach her all the lessons in the world but if the situation ever came to pass the decision of what course to take would be hers. Just because Rihanna didn’t do what you or I would have done doesn’t mean her mother didn’t teach her all those lessons. There were lessons my mother taught me but when it came to the situation I made my own choice. It may not have been what I was taught but it was what was best for me. People are not one trick ponies that do something one time and get stuck on repeat. Unless you are psychic and can predict the future to say because a person did this once and will do it again you have no idea. Life doesn’t work that way. I would always protect myself and that is the advice I would give but if you are going to judge someone by what they did once with no guarantee that it will ever happen again makes for a lonely life. People are not perfect and mistakes happen (and I know people say it was more than a mistake but my opinion is mistakes aren’t measured just as sins aren’t in either case if it causes hurt to someone the measurement doesn’t matter) but people can change if they are allowed to and not be labeled with their transgressions. You won’t see the change if all you see is their past or what they did wrong.(This is no way excusing what CB did and I am not a fan) but I think Rihanna is grown and as long as she is going into things more aware it is her decision and shouldn’t be judged or ridiculed for it.

ghetto? not really…a whore?…she doesn’t open her legs up for anyone…so calling her a ghetto whore? is pretty damn laughable

And adult who could not buy a beer at that age.

A woman should NEVER go back to a man that beat her, as you say, what about a woman going back to a man who call her names, pull her down, make her so insecure she has no self esteem…………Q……..if your man slapped you in the face so hard you bled, what would you do?…awaiting your answer although I believe I know what you are going to say………

that’s right, you’re not a victim- you’re a volunteer.

Hope you have taken self defense classes!. Someone beats you up and you take him back???…DUMBASS!

And if those woman were stupid enough to flaunt the fact they went back to the man who beat them, they would be in the same boat as CB and Rihana. This has NOTHING to do with black vs white. There are many other black men who have beat their wives/gf’s too and they are not in the media all the time.

In that country. Many other countries he’s of age. I love that so many are so quick to set aside what he did just because he can’t buy BEER! Give me an effing break. He can vote, get married, buy cigarettes and pay taxes. He’s an ADULT.

You are right it doesn’t have anything to with B/W it has to do with people putting their opinions in where they are not asked by either of these people. Seems the problem isn’t with them flaunting their whatever it is they have going on “between them” it is the media and the people giving them attention. They go out that is not a crime and I seem t remember when this happened and since it hasn’t been either of them talking about it but the media that keeps bringing attention to these two. It also seems to be people that keeps bringing it up and every time either of their names are mentioned this is what people relate it too. It happened to her if she the one who went through it wants to let it go who are we to deny her that. It kills me that the media is slammed for following celebs and intruding on their lives and people talk about the celebs rights to live and go out but when they do the same thing to celebs people don’t like it is some how the celebs, fault. They have just as much right to be out and doing their thing as the kristen stewart and robert pattinson’s of the world and it doesn’t mean they are flaunting anything it means they are living their life.

So what then people should just not try to set good examples for their kids? Please.

So I’m living in a dream world because my husband doesn’t abuse me at all? Not mentally, physically or verbally? Really? I’ve had abusive boyfriends before and left each one. Do I argue with my husband? Sure, just like you would with any relationship. He doesn’t put me down though, doesn’t hit me, doesn’t make me doubt myself.

See that is the problem people put these celebs up on pedestals and have unrealistic expectations of them. They are human and that is what we tell our kids when they are looking up to someone they don’t know. They fall short just like we do and get held to incredible standards and when they don’t live up to those standards we crucify them. This woman isn’t doing anything that makes her more special than the mother who stays up all night with her sick child or goes without so that her kids don’t have too. That mother is more special than the Rihanna’s and Madonna’s, etc. That is the example we need to teach our kids. You know that example you talked about earlier. We should be our children’s role models and if that doesn’t work for them have them compare the teachers and educators who gave their lives to protect the kids at the Sandy Hook elementary school to someone who write and sings songs. She had a dream and followed it and if they want to be like her they should follow their own dreams that should be the extent of her influence. She got into the business to live her life and make money not raise our kids. When we see our kids looking up to these people we need to ask them hard questions about why they look up to these people and most of the time it is the money and fame. We need to tell them that they can be just as successful as these celebs who are regular people and it doesn’t take being on stage it takes being who they are and doing what they love . It doesn’t mean it will work I know but gives them options and it sets that example you were talking about.