Nick Loeb: Sofia Vergara Is “Killing” Our Embryos By Keeping Them Frozen
Sofia Vergara’s ex-fiancée Nick Loeb speaks out about his lawsuit to save the former couple’s frozen embryos in an op-ed published in Thursday’s New York Times, in which he accuses the actress of “killing” their fertilized eggs.
As Gossip Cop previously reported, the controversial embryos, made via Loeb’s sperm and Vergara’s eggs, were created in 2013. Vergara and Loeb broke up last year, and Loeb filed the lawsuit in August to “ensure that the female embryos” were protected because the actress “refuses to agree to their preservation under all circumstances.” While Loeb has said he will absolve Vergara of all responsibilities if he can move forward, the actress believes the embryos should remain frozen indefinitely.
In his piece, titled “Our Frozen Embryos Have a Right to Live,” Loeb lays out his arguments for the suit, explaining he initially wanted the court case to remain anonymous, but felt compelled to speak out after it leaked. He attributes the attention to the dispute both to Vergara’s “Modern Family” fame, “but also because embryonic custody disputes raise important questions about life, religion and parenthood.”
Loeb writes, “A woman is entitled to bring a pregnancy to term even if the man objects. Shouldn’t a man who is willing to take on all parental responsibilities be similarly entitled to bring his embryos to term even if the woman objects? These are issues that, unlike abortion, have nothing to do with the rights over one’s own body, and everything to do with a parent’s right to protect the life of his or her unborn child.”
The businessman goes on to reference other similar cases, and details not only how his experiences with his own parents informed his own desire to become a father, but also his failed past attempts at conceiving. Loeb says that when he and Vergara began dating in 2010, “her career was about to take off, and I didn’t want to pressure her, as I wanted her to fulfill her dreams and reap the rewards of her hard work.” After their 2012 engagement, he says he “began to push for children,” and that she “insisted that we use a surrogate.”
“I was so excited once the lives were created that I began to suggest names we could call our girls. The first embryo we implanted didn’t take. The second time, the surrogate miscarried, and I felt crushed,” writes Loeb. More embryos were created a year later. “But as we began to discuss other potential surrogates, it became clear once more that parenthood was much less urgent for her than it was for me,” says the entrepreneur. “We had been together for over four years. As I was coming on 40, I gave her an ultimatum. When she refused, we split up.”
Loeb also says Vergara “refused” when he “asked her to let me have the embryos, offering to pay for all expenses to carry our girls to term and raise them,” and said she could be “declared an egg donor,” while he would solely handled parental obligation. Now, in response to Vergara’s desire to leave the embryos frozen, Loeb writes, “In my view, keeping them frozen forever is tantamount to killing them.”
He further notes, “Many have asked me: Why not just move on and have a family of your own? I have every intention of doing so. But that doesn’t mean I should let the two lives I have already created be destroyed or sit in a freezer until the end of time.” Loeb concludes, “I take the responsibility and obligation of being a parent very seriously. This is not just about saving lives; it is also about being pro-parent.” What do you think of the controversy, and Loeb’s decision to write an op-ed about his battle with Vergara?