Jennifer Lopez: “I’m Not Allowed To Be Sexy Because I’m A Mom?”

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Jennifer Lopez Complex

By Daniel Gates

Jennifer Lopez Complex


Jennifer Lopez tells Complex that anyone who thinks it’s okay to hack and steal photos from celebrities just because they’re rich and famous is a criminal, period. “It’s an invasion of privacy,” she says of the proliferation of hacked pictures. “You want to think that you can have privacy in this world —even with your devices. When people think it’s OK to do stuff like that for entertainment purposes and to embarrass people or take their intimate private moments, it’s cruel. It should be punishable.”

“Oh! When you become rich and famous, you don’t have feelings anymore?!” she asks, incredulously. “That’s what it is. OK! C’mon. It’s not about having money in the bank. You can have all the money in the world and it doesn’t mean you’re a happy person. Money doesn’t solve problems. It makes some things easier but it just gives you a different set of problems. Everything has a trade-off in this world. I’ve learned that from being broke as hell and having money.”

She tells the outlet, “We should have a choice about what we do. Nobody should be stolen from. You shouldn’t be stolen from just because you decided to take a crazy picture with your girlfriend or your boyfriend one day. We decide what we do with our private things.”

Lopez has opened up in the past about having low self-esteem, and she elaborates on the point in the new cover interview. “When my first marriage didn’t work out, my second marriage didn’t work out, and I was with Marc [Anthony] and I was trying to make it work, and that didn’t work out, it was devastating,” she tells the magazine. “Each time I felt like such a failure, from what I’d been taught.”

Now, she says, “I’m grateful for all those trials and tribulations because with that you gain perseverance and the desire to learn and grow. So I’m happy about those experiences now. They’re painful in the moment, but now I see myself as a brave warrior princess who keeps going no matter what, and who has learned to cherish the things that matter in life, which is finding my own happiness first and then being able to share that with not just people in my life but with the world.”

Lopez has a problem with the fairy tales that are told to children about love and romance. “Little girls are taught that especially,” she says. “Prince Charming is gonna come along. You’re going to live happily ever after, and then that doesn’t happen. You have your first boyfriend in high school and that falls apart and you’re like, ‘What’s going on?’ All of these things get shattered one by one. It’s so unfair. Nobody teaches us the important thing from when we’re young, which is to value yourself and love yourself, and then you can share happiness and love with other people.”

As for criticism about her sexy “Booty” video, given her age and status as a mom, Lopez laughs, “I’m not allowed to be sexy because I’m a mom? It’s like, How do you think I got my children?” She continues, “The truth is I don’t want to do anything that they would be embarrassed of in the long run. But at the end of the day, they care more about me being there, taking care of them, than if I’m sexy in a video.”

And Lopez is not so sure that age still matters like it used to in Hollywood. She explains, “It’s not like that anymore. Look at all the actresses who are working. I remember a couple of years back every actress on the cover of the September issues was over 40, because each one of them had a big film coming out. It was me, Halle Berry, Sandra Bullock, Julia Roberts, and Jennifer Aniston. That was a defining moment. The world has changed. Women maintain themselves. We live in a different time.” What do you think about what Lopez has to say?

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