Jennifer Lopez Reveals She Was In Abusive Relationship, Opens Up About Marc Anthony Split In New True Love Book

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Jennifer Lopez Abusive Relationship

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Jennifer Lopez Abusive Relationship

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Jennifer Lopez reveals she had abusive relationships in her upcoming book, True Love. As Gossip Cop previously reported, the project was announced in May as the story of how Lopez “confronted her greatest challenges, identified her biggest fears, and ultimately emerged a stronger person than she’s ever been.”

While True Love won’t be released until November 4, excerpts indicate just how intimate Lopez gets. She writes, “I’ve never gotten a black eye or busted lip, but I have been in relationships where I felt abused one way or another: mentally, emotionally, verbally.” Lopez goes on, “I know what it feels like for your soul to be diminished by the way your loved one is treating you.”

Reflecting on bad relationships and standing up for one’s self, the singer says, “Every day that you don’t walk out that door, every day you accept things in your partner and in yourself, is a day that you’re saying it’s okay.” Lopez, of course, has had her fair share of bad romances.

The star has been divorced three times, after failed marriages with Ojani Noa, Cris Judd, and Marc Anthony. There was also a broken engagement with Ben Affleck, and her breakup from longtime boyfriend Casper Smart earlier this year. There’s no indication as to whether Lopez was referring to any of those relationships in her remarks, but she does provide specific details about her breakup from Anthony.

“Anybody looking from the outside in would have thought my life was great,” writes Lopez. “I had a husband and two beautiful children. I was on ‘American Idol’ and my new single ‘On the Floor’ had gone to number one all over the world.” She says, however, “What people didn’t know was that life really wasn’t that good. My relationship was falling apart and I was terrified.”

Lopez even candidly shares exactly when she decided the marriage was over. She recalls, “It was one of those moments when you’re so scared you can’t even scream. In a blur of fear and panic, I looked at [manager Benny Medina] and my mother and blurted out the words: ‘I don’t think I can be with Marc anymore.’ Then I burst into tears.”

As personal as the comments may be, Lopez says she had Anthony’s blessing to publish them. She tells People, “He read it and said, ‘Wow, I didn’t realize you were going through this whole journey.’ We try to be supportive of each other. We feel that’s the best thing for our kids.”

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