Lorde’s Boyfriend James Lowe Speaks Out: What It’s Like To Date Singer

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By Daniel Gates


What’s it like dating Lorde? The singer’s photographer boyfriend, James Lowe, opens up about his “surreal” life in a recent post on his blog, speaking for himself after being hounded by E! and subjected to tabloid speculation and paparazzi harassment.

Lowe (pictured at right with Lorde in a photo she shared on Instagram) calls the teenage superstar by her real name Ella Marija Lani Yelich-O’Connor, and explains why he decided to return to his blog.

“I’ve written, deleted, re-written, and deleted this post at least five times over the past few months, wondering when would be an appropriate time to start writing again. Thinking to myself, when I would need to start writing again,” says Lowe.

He continues, “While posting on tumblr has kept blogging here at bay, at some point having a voice behind the pictures is becoming equally important to me. I’ve always said it’s up to you, the viewer, to decipher what the photograph means (perhaps out of laziness to bother explaining, a trait i’ve gained from art school).”

“Now, however – having experienced how wrong taking the silent seat can go – I’d rather clear the air about a lot of misconceptions out there,” writes Lowe. “To challenge the voices of ignorant writers who cower behind their anonymous comments.”

He goes on to explain, “Since originally sitting down to write this post, Ella has become a two time grammy winner. She has taken home a Brit too. Currently she is on the opposite side of the world on tour. As much as I miss her, I couldn’t be prouder of what she has achieved so far.”

“If you are lucky enough to attend one of her shows on this current tour, you’ll experience more than just her voice,” writes Lowe. “The production she has dreamt up looks incredible… I can’t wait to see it myself next month.”

The photographer continues, “This blog developed into a series of words and pictures, thoughts and often over-thoughts about trying to live in a country that wasn’t my own, about trying to be in a relationship with a girl who lives 6000 miles away, about whatever the f*ck someone in their 20′s shouldn’t be doing, but currently is. My life is probably a lot different now, but it feels normal on the inside.”

Jared Leto said that fame doesn’t change you, it changes everyone around you,” adds Lowe. “While I’m not the centre of attention here (and f*ck, the times I have, it’s never been fun), I do become aware of the people around me and their transparency. They fail to hide it.”

He says, “I’ve experienced being a target of the tabloids, finding moments I thought I was in safe hands splattered all over the internet, being pushed and shoved, or watching others get pushed and shoved by paparazzi just to get what they think they’re entitled to. While I’m dragging on about the negative aspects, they are only a small part of my world now.”

“There is a bright, shining silver lining to this thing I’ve been exposed to… I’ve been able to tell tales of the many amazing people I’ve met along the way – from fellow photographers, to artists I’ve always admired and never thought I’d get to meet, let alone have a simple thing like coffee with,” adds Lowe.

The artist continues, “People who seem to scramble the words within your brain and the only thing you end up doing is blurting out ‘HILSKDFLKWELK’ (at some point it’s a verbal greeting, but ends up a flurry of sweat mixed with spit). More importantly, I’ve found a little inspiration from new faces. People I look up to. People whose work I admire so much. For all of this I have to thank the one I look up to the most. Who I admire the most. Who still fills the little voids I try to avoid.”

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