Gwyneth Paltrow Compares Getting Internet Hate to Being in War (VIDEO)

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By Shari Weiss



Gwyneth Paltrow slammed haters — and compared their effect to being in war — during her speech at Tuesday’s Code Conference in Rancho Palos Verdes, Calif.


The Oscar winner, who has been subject to her fair share of Internet vitriol, lamented being “a person in the culture that people want to harm.”

“Celebrities, we’ve always gotten stones thrown at us and, you know, for good reason: We’re annoying. Some of us look okay, we look like we have money, our lives seem great. That may or may not be the case … Nevertheless, we get it. Or, at the very least, we expect that it’s part and parcel to what we do,” Paltrow told the crowd.

She went on, “Anyone in any field who has their head rise above a poppy in the field, they get their heads chopped off. It’s our human nature to feel that way, and to do it. … Everybody takes sh*t, it’s just the way it is.”

Paltrow questioned the self-serving nature of Internet commenting, saying, “We can momentarily anesthetize ourselves by focusing on someone else’s life, get a nice hot shot of schadenfreude and keep going, but how does this serve us?”

As a victim, the actress likened it to feeling like “the scabs from your high school wounds being ripped off on a daily basis.”

She told the crowd, “It’s where we are in our culture.”

“Yes, it does worry me, for the development of my kids and the next generation, that people can be so cruel without experiencing the consequences of being so cruel face to face,” added Paltrow.

In an accompanying interview before she took the stage, the movie star further acknowledged, “It’s taken me a long time to get to the point where I can see these things and not take it as a personal affront and a hurt. I see myself as a chalkboard or a whiteboard or a screen, and someone is just putting up their own projection on it.”

“It’s dangerous, [because] we lack the capacity to say, ‘Why does this matter to me, and who am I in this?’ ‘Why am I having opinions about Angelina Jolie’s operation?’ ‘What is unhealed in me?’ ‘Why am I using the Internet to do this?’” she said.

But there’s no denying that it can be painful at times, or as Paltrow puts it — “dehumanizing.”

The star says, “You come across [online comments] about yourself and about your friends, and it’s a very dehumanizing thing. It’s almost like how, in war, you go through this bloody, dehumanizing thing, and then something is defined out of it.

“My hope is, as we get out of it, we’ll reach the next level of conscience,” she added.

Check out Paltrow’s speech below, and tell us what you think?

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