Gwyneth Paltrow: I Would’ve “Died” If I Hadn’t Met Chris Martin, Sometimes Wish We Were Still Together
Looking back at their courtship, which followed right after the death of her famous father Bruce, Paltrow says in the magazine’s February issue, “I feel like I would have died somehow if I hadn’t met him at that time. I felt like I was going to die of grief. I remember waking up, on one particular night, where I felt like I was having a heart attack and I couldn’t breathe… I lay on the floor of my apartment in London and I thought, ‘I’m not going to survive this.’ And he just picked me up and he was so loving and patient through all my grieving.”
“He’s really great in a crisis. He has incredible empathy when it comes to somebody’s pain,” Paltrow says of the Coldplay front man. But the Oscar winner also admits that their relationship moved “very fast” and questions whether the then-25-year-old Martin was really ready to settle down. She explains, “Men are very young at that age, and I was relying on him very heavily and I really expected him to keep being this grown man and pillar of strength – which he was and is – but it’s also quite an unfair set of criteria to give to someone who’s just 25 years old.”
After announcing their separation in March, Paltrow admits their relationship is “always a moving, amorphous thing” as they remain a huge part of each other’s lives, and co-parent their children, Apple and Moses. “It’s painful, it’s difficult, it might be easier to say, ‘I never want to see you again,’ but what good does that do anyone?’” she tells the British outlet.
Paltrow goes on, “We’ve made a lot of mistakes, and we’ve had good days and bad days, but I have to say, I’m proud of us for working through so much stuff together – and not blaming and shaming.” She further confesses, “Of course, there are times when I think it would have been better if we had stayed married, which is always what your children want. But we have been able to solidify this friendship, so that we’re really close.”
The movie star also opens up to the magazine about her views on women and femininity, wondering why female are “so vitriolic” to each other, “why they want to twist words, why they want to read about someone else in a negative light and why that feels good to them.” “But I also know a huge tribe of women who are loving and supportive of other women, in ways that are completely transformative,” she says.
Paltrow, who says pornography is “demeaning and repressive of actual female sexuality,” declares, “I think we are a generation of women who are different in a lot of respects, and some of us want to be ambitious, and for it not to be a dirty word.” She adds, “We want to be feminine and soft, we want to be maternal, we want to be sexual, we want to be explorers – and we can be a combination of all of these archetypes. You can be powerful, but you can also be vulnerable.” What do you think of Paltrow’s interview?