Charlize Theron Breaks Silence In Vogue: Sean Penn Makes “My Life Better”
“I really do understand the importance and what that ceremony represents to so many people, but it’s just such a personal thing,” says the actress of possibly tying the knot one day. “Let’s put it this way: I never had the dream of the white dress. And watching other people getting married? I think it’s beautiful for them, but to be quite honest, usually I’m sitting there just devastated.”
She explains, “It’s supposed to be this night of celebrating love, and all you see is a couple separated all night making sure everybody else is OK. It just looks like a lot of work. And as you get older, you start sifting through the stuff that really matters.”
Does her reluctance to marry have to do with her own parents’ traumatic relationship, which ended with Theron’s mother killing her father in self-defense?
The star says no.
“A lot of people want to make it about my past, my mom and dad not being in a great marriage, but I will tell you honestly: I have had a good amount of healthy therapy about it, and it really isn’t about that,” reveals Theron.
She adds, “Because I think that would kind of showcase itself more in a fear of long-term relationships, which I don’t have at all. I want the long-term relationship. And I don’t really know how to invest in the other thing.”
The Oscar winner is now dating Sean Penn.
Asked about it, she says, “I don’t know how you have a healthy relationship with the whole world knowing about it. Look, we’re dating, and I don’t think we were trying to hide anything.”
“We were photographed; the relationship was kind of written about. I recently did a daylong press junket, which I hadn’t done in forever, and it’s a harsh reminder that whatever people try to hide a press junket behind, it’s really a roundabout way of getting at as much private sh*t as they can,” reveals Theron. “It was all about what I like to eat and avoiding questions about Sean or my son.”
But then she opens up.
Theron tells Vogue, “What I will say is, I was single for a really long time. I was enjoying mommyhood. You just naturally become kind of selfish about your time, and all of it is dedicated to this little thing, whether he needs it or not. And then they get into more of a schedule and you start to think, Wow, wait a second. There’s this passionate creature in me.”
It wasn’t easy.
“Going about dating in your late 30s is such a different ball game,” she says. “I know so well what I want to fit in my life. And the simple answer to that is: Unless he can make my life better? My life is really pretty f*cking good.”
Penn fits the bill.
Theron explains, “What I guess I am trying to say is: A friend kind of stepped into that role, and I really didn’t see it coming. Sean and I have known each other for eighteen years. We were just really good friends. And it’s been slow going because you are aware that you could screw that up and lose it. We had to think about it.”
“But at the end of the day, it was somewhat effortless,” says the star. “It just kind of naturally happened, and before I knew it, I was in something that was making my life better — the people who really love me can see the effect it has had on me.”
And what about her young son Jackson?
Theron says, “He likes big boys. He’s super independent. His awareness just blows my mind. He picks up on things really quickly. Shy at first, and then you can’t stop him. But it’s the shyness that I love because it’s kind of a pensive quality — he susses out the situation, and then he’ll step in and join the group.”
She always wanted to adopt.
“Even in my relationship with Stuart [Townsend], that was something I was very clear about,” Theron tells the magazine. “We had very different ideas of what a family looked like. There’s no judgment; that was not the reason why we broke up, but when we did, adopting was not a last resort for me — it was almost like a first resort.”
The actress adds, “And it’s the only thing in my life that’s surpassed how great I thought it would be.”
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