Cameron Diaz, Kate Upton and Leslie Mann Reveal Cheating Stories, Share Advice
Cameron Diaz, Kate Upton and Leslie Mann open up in the May issue of Redbook about cheating and the value of having close female friends. The Other Woman stars also give advice on how to deal with being cheated on.
Mann reveals, “When I was younger, I was dating this guy. I was just so in love with him. I thought he was cheating but wasn’t sure.” She continues, “When I ran into his friend, I told him what was happening and he said, ‘He’s not worth it.’ I said, ‘What do you mean he’s not worth it? What do you know?’ He insisted, ‘I don’t know anything.’ I went back to my boyfriend and said, ‘I ran into your friend, and he told me everything.’ His response was, ‘Oh, my God, I can’t believe he told you!’ So I caught him!”
Upton, meanwhile, says cheating today can be much more painful because of social media. The supermodel offers, “These days, women will sit there, scrolling through photos of the other woman. They’re putting themselves down by doing that, when they should be focusing on lifting themselves up.” Mann chimes in, “Because people don’t post ugly pictures of themselves. They only post pretty ones that make you feel bad.”
Diaz tells the magazine that the best possible revenge a woman can get on a cheater is “to move past [the hurt] as quickly as possible and live your life,” explaining, “To do that, you can either take the high road or the low road. I’m not going to tell a woman to become best friends with the girl her boyfriend is cheating with, but I will say, don’t waste your energy focusing on who this woman is, what you think she has that you don’t, or how you can change the guy. If he’s a cheater, he’s a cheater. Just move on.”
She also says it’s important not to blame the “other woman,” as many are wont to do. Diaz offers, “We often hold the woman accountable for a guy’s actions. In reality, we need to ask ourselves, Why am I in this position? Did I learn something along the way and not listen to myself? When will I stop being scared to leave something that I know is not good for me?”
The star goes on to talk about the importance of women supporting one another, sharing, “What’s really valuable about a good friendship is how much you can want for the other person. Take my girlfriend Drew [Barrymore]. She has this beautiful baby and this wonderful husband and this life she’s worked really hard to build, and I’ve watched her through the whole journey. I’m so happy for her.” What do you think of their interview and advice for women?